He Won't Leave His Mother and Father (Mentally) - Is That Really a Big Deal?

He won't leave his mother and father? You may not have that actual problem, but it might seem like it. You are just not sure he will leave his mother, mentally. You also notice how much he depends upon his father when it comes to making decisions.

You are convinced of his love for you. If he won't leave his father and mother, emotionally, will that really interfere with your wonderful relationship?

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Actually some of the best words of advice ever given were that a man should leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife. There will definitely be cleaving problems if your husband does not make that mental break with his own family.

Often we joke about a wife saying that when will "go home to mother." It is just as serious though, if the husband is not committed to leaving his parents to form the new family.

Here are five steps you can take to deal with this concern:

1. Talk About It

So, this is something for you to really examine before you get married. If there are signs of a very close family, that is not necessarily a bad thing, but you do want to make sure that this "leaving" will actually take place. It certainly is a point for pre-marital discussion.

2. Be Aware of the Problems

Perhaps you should try to identify potential problems that could arise from him, or you for that matter, not leaving his father and mother--at least in his mind.

3. If You Physically Have to Live with One set of Parents, Make Sure the Mental Leaving Takes Place

It sometimes becomes necessary for financial reasons for a couple to live with one of their parents. If that happens, it is even more important that this mental leaving takes place.

4. Make a Commitment to Begin Working on This Before You Get Married

Both of you can begin the mental leaving before the actual leaving takes place. Planning for the wedding is one area where this might be tested. Remember it is YOUR wedding, so hold firm on your own preferences.

5. Tell Each Other How Excited You Are To Have a Life Together

If your jobs take you away from the area, that will sort of sad, in one way, but it will give you the advantage of physical distance between you and your parents. Whether there is a physical leaving or not, be excited about your life together.

So, these five things will help you when it seems like he won't leave his father, or he won't leave his mother. It is very important because, you see, it really is a big deal!

He Won't Leave His Mother and Father (Mentally) - Is That Really a Big Deal?

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